One maxim that I have always tried to follow is one that was derived in my youth. In short, no matter how bad something is it at home, it should not be taken out on those who cohabitate the workspace. It was apparent even then how some folks were just miserable. It is not my fault that your home life sucks, so leave me alone. I shall then do the same.
I bring this up only because the problem seems to be getting worse. The workplace is no longer secure, with fears of downsizing forever permeating the air. It creates an element of stress that is not otherwise seen. In said workplace I do my best to keep a happy face, as I do not feel it is fair to “take it out on others.” Evidently though, not many others subscribe to my theory.
I am forever amazed at how many people refuse to acknowledge you in the hallway. A simple head nod, hello, smile, goes a long way. It infuriates me when others decide not to return such a simple courtesy. I can think of one gentleman in particular who will never respond with any salutation when I try to be cordial. Typically I say hello and he walks by without making eye contact. Other times he actually looks right at me, and then proceeds to ignore me. Good for him, I hope it makes him happy. He can’t shut his mouth anyway; it is always open just a tad. I can’t stand that, close your lips you oxygen hog. Keep your snaggletooth out of my sight.
The ultimate test of this is in the elevator. Typically that situation causes me to loose my moxie, and I do not say anything. I am not sure why, perhaps I have verbal claustrophobia. Either that or I choose not to respond with some banal comment about the weather, elevator speed, or presidential election. But, today, I actually had someone go out of her way to say “Have a nice day” when getting off the elevator. This was after I had of course said nothing during the trip north. I was then so tongue-tied by her peace offering that I muttered little in return. It irks me that it happens so infrequently that one occurrence is enough to leave me aghast and speechless. It is merely another step in the evolution of the American culture and its pervasive selfishness.
Speechless in Southeast Michigan, -Michael